Let me first say that this post, and the topic I plan to write on next, may well contain opinions that you simply *do not* agree with. I understand that and welcome any thoughts/comments both publicly or privately. These are going to simply be *my* thoughts and opinions on these topics - that doesn't make them "right", nor does it make them "wrong". So without further ado...
I'm a firm believe in doing this in person whenever possible. I realize in some cases that's simply not feasible - in some cases friends/family may live too far away to make this practical for example; but when it is feasible I simply believe it's the best course of action; and even in those extreme cases, a phone call is preferable to a letter in my opinion. As I said above, the letter method does have it's allures. But there are downsides too, downsides that I think are often overlooked and those are what I thought I'd talk about here.
Coming out to people, especially family and friends, is going to bring questions from those family and friends and a letter simply cannot provide the answers to every question that they may have. Now, even in person you may or may not be able to answer every question either; but at least you can make the effort. However, what I think is an even bigger point in favor of handling this in person is to me it shows just how serious you are about transitioning. Think back to grade school - did you (or anyone you know) ever write a note to a person you liked? Would you do that now as an adult? Or would you simply ask them out? Now I know that plenty of people do ask others out via text message, email, etc., but I just personally feel that something like that is an "in person" kind of thing and I think coming out merits the same kind of effort.
I guess I'll wrap this up, I haven't felt very good in several days and I find myself losing my train of thought. But I stand by what I've said, I really think that coming out is something best done in person and not via a letter, but again that's simply my two cents.
- M
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