For me, and a lot of Trans-Woman I suspect; using the bathroom is a major source of stress. The rule of thumb says to use the bathroom of the gender you are presenting as. However, as there is no clear cut law on the issue - at least in Missouri - it can be dicey at best. I make every effort to not have to use a bathroom when I'm out; but if I do I usually try to find a "family" bathroom which mitigates the problem; however, that's not always possible, nor is it always possible to wait until I can get home.
So today was a "baby book moment" for me - my wife "J", my friend "M", and I had went to get our eyebrows threaded and then to lunch. We had initially picked a place but due to some driving hijinks we ended up deciding to head to Ameristar casino for their Champagne Brunch.
Once we got there I had to use the bathroom, but I couldn't seem to find a family restroom; so "J" said she'd take me to the ladies room. I am legally female per my court order; but I have not changed my license or birth certificate yet; nor had I thought to bring my "carry letter" from the therapist so I was more than a bit nervous. As it turned out it was completely un-eventful. We got our food, took it to the table and headed off "to the potty". There was a woman at one of the sinks but she didn't pay any attention to us so I hit the first open stall with "J" taking the one next to me. Of course I suddenly couldn't go, but after sitting there for a minute or two the problem took care of itself. "J" finished before me and was washing her hands when I came out. We finished up and proceeded to have a great lunch. One more thing checked off the "girl list".
-M
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